I used to work in an office where good work was rarely rewarded, but mistakes big or small were magnified and publicly shamed for everyone to see. Sometimes the shaming was subtle, and other times it was plain as day. The office’s infamous “Bun Fund” was one example of the deeply rooted culture of shame and fear. The Bun Fund’s …
3 Ways to Uplevel Your Body Confidence
The day I discovered a stretch mark on my body was the day I gave up wearing shorts. For years. I was in high school at the time, which is another way of saying I was incredibly insecure, still growing into my body, and wondering if my parents were really out to ruin my life. Ah, what a wonderful time …
What The Body Acceptance Movement Fails To Teach Women
I am not a trendsetter. I was the last one in college (in New York City might I add) to purchase a pair of Uggs right when it became a thing. That is, until I hurt my foot so bad and the only thing I could walk in were my roommates’ Ugg boots. I now own four pairs. Growing up …
In Defense Of The Feminine Body
Growing up, I associated femininity with sexuality. A feminine woman, I learned, was desirable, sexy, slim, and could captivate anyone in the room by her sheer presence and hotness. I was 12 years old, flat chested, awkward and a far cry from feminine, or at least, my interpretation of it. I figured I’d grow into this feminine body somehow, but I …
6 Ways To Beat The Comparison Trap
They say you shouldn’t compare your ‘behind the scenes’ to someone else’s ‘highlight reel.’ This is meant to make us feel better about the narcissist posts we see on social media. The unfortunate side of social media is that it’s turned us into our own monsters. We compare our significant others, our training, our bodies to those on our social …